Kindergarten with Fewer Fears and Tears

Many children are eager to be Big Girls and Big Boys and eagerly head to
Kindergarten . However, others are uncertain of the big transition and their
ability to handle the changes. Children who tend to be sensitive, anxious or
rigid have a harder time with change and may need more support as the ease
into the idea of a new school, new teachers and new friends.

While many parents look forward to watching their children grow and learn in
a new school environment, others share their children's worries that
elementary school will be overwhelming for their children and their family.

A successful transition to Kindergarten requires that parents can convey a
sense of excitement and certainty to their children so they view the change
as an adventure. To do this parents must be honest with themselves about the
ambivalence that often accompanies their children's developmental advances.
We're thrilled to see the new things they can do, yet worried about what the
Big Bad World may show them and sad that they need us a little less each
day. Some parents are unsure of the school's ability to provide the support
and education their child needs. These little doubts can easily be reflected
to children in our tone as we speak to them or our actions as we prepare
them to start school. If children sense uncertainty in the adults - who they
believe can handle anything! - their own doubts grow. Conveying a sense that
you are confident in their ability to make new friends, learn well and
tolerate the change is imperative in boosting their spirits.

There are several ways you can increase their confidence and limit the
uncertainty of the experience. Attend the school orientation, play on the
playground if possible, visit a friend at the school for lunch, read
books/watch movies about new schools, discuss the New School Jitters to
normalize the feeling, visit the school website and discuss in as much
detail as possible the school day (i.e. check the menu if it is posted, look
for pictures of the gym or common areas). Most importantly, let your child
know that you will be supporting them during the transition and together you
can handle anything.

Mindwell is offering Kindergarten Readiness groups to help make the
transition an exciting adventure. Contact us if you are interested.
Erika Madison, Ph.D.